On Daring to Be Bold

Repel the wrong opportunities, so you can attract the right ones!

May 20, 2026

Happy Tuesday, love!

Here are 3 tips on being shamelessly sexy this week, inspired by my story about an interview I had yesterday:

My Story 📓

“So tell me about Misseducated,” the recruiter said to me across the screen. I am interviewing for a position at an online media publication. My throat clenches.

“W-Well, it’s not exactly safe for work,” I tell him. I’m proud of Misseducated, but I have written a lot about my sex life on this blog. I pause, and let the shame, the voices of unknown yet cruel others, and the fear of rejection wash over me.

“You shouldn’t have told him. You’ll never get hired here or anywhere else. He probably thinks you’re a freak.”

Yet a moment later, the recruiter nods his head,

“This is exactly the kind of work we look for,” he said, “Bold thinkers. You know, we really value independent writers.”

I breathe a sigh of relief. Maybe I am welcome here. Maybe this is the kind of place where I could be myself after all. I proceed to tell him about a new manifesto I am working on about creative freedom. We finish the interview 15 minutes over time, and he quickly invites me for a second round.

The same thing happened when I pitched to work at Clue, the period-tracking app with 10 million+ users. I told them about my spicy blog, they hired me, and then they all loved my strategic content recommendations to update their articles about period sex and period poops! Clearly, I had found my people.

It takes courage to show up as our true selves in the world. When we put ourselves out there, all kinds of critical voices can arise within us to try to keep us safe. But yesterday, that interviewer reminded me that when we do put a stake in the ground and are courageous, we immediately repel all the wrong people and work opportunities whose values and missions don’t match ours, and immediately attract the right ones.

So, I dare you to stand for something. When you do so, you’ll be surprised by all the right opportunities really meant for your mission, your boldness, and your excellence which come your way.

Your Shamelessly Sexy Tips 💁‍♀️

Desire It 💋

What is one thing you really care about, or one project you want to work on, but you worry that people will deeply judge you for speaking up about it or pursuing it? Hold it in your mind’s eye right now. Sit with whatever feelings come up. Is it shame? Is it fear you’ll be rejected? Try to identify what is holding you back from just doing it.

Honor It 🌞

Imagine yourself as the person who has put this scary project or idea out there into the world. What parts of yourself are being loved and cared for in this process? How are you showing up for yourself? Whose life might be changed for the better in a world you’ve decided to be bolder? What groups or organizations are aligned with this and might be excited to work with you on it?

Send this to someone going through a transformation! 🔮

Act On It 🎯

Rip off this band-aid in a small way. This could include: writing the first draft of an idea, preparing a document to share internally at work, proposing a new event in your community, or changing your bio on your social media account. Take one small step this week to express something on your heart that is closer to who you are, but that scares you or might even risk your professional reputation.

Life is short, remember that!

See you next week!

Love,

Tash Doherty

Author of These Perfectly Careless Things

Creator of The Intimacy Journal

Facilitator of Intimacy Writing Workshops

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Extra Treats I’m Working On 🍬

Your Deeper, Spicier Read 🔥

This week, I updated my article, “The Best Porn Categories for Women.” I hope you enjoy reading it, and thank you in advance for giving it a click so Google will index the update faster 😈.

My Next Creative Project: Early Access Update! 🌅

It’s finally time for the big reveal! I’ve built my first online course, and I want to give a select few of my readers early access to its cornerstone module: “Writing to Rekindle Desire.”

This module follows a therapeutic writing methodology developed by Professor James Pennebaker at UT Austin. It is not basic journaling; it’s a specific, 4-session expressive writing protocol shown to help people move past emotional blocks and reconnect with their physical needs. I’ve designed it to help you (or a friend) deeply process what’s holding you back from lusting over your partner(s) endlessly and having the best sex of your life 🌶️.

The deal: I’m giving away $97 worth of course material for free to 5 people. In exchange, I just ask for your honest feedback before the full launch on Teachable.

To apply: Simply reply to this email or comment “VIP” below. If you’re referring a friend, include their email address. I’ll be selecting 5 people this week to join the inner circle! Exciting times 🤩.